Male sensitivity mirroring miseducation.

     Male sensitivity is almost always seen as gay to other men right? Why? Is it because growing up you were learned to be "hard" or tough. Maybe you were always viewed that way out of obligation. You know the narrative, single mother raising small kids and you're the oldest. Or you're  the only boy between siblings. Right? Fact of the matter is we catch hell if we don't "stand up and take it like a man." Well what's that really like? What's taking it like anything have to do with having feelings. Being expressive about what men really feel throughout their lives as men. A lot of us can't really talk about what's really going on with us because of this reason. How do we teach this unspoken language to generations to come? Speaking from a male point of view about how we should conduct ourselves as heterosexual men with feelings, do we put down the discomfort of regret to be the men we're suppose to be? Do we shadow other men who have endured and those who have failed to know what it's all about? How do we as men discern the true values of men? Is it really by his character shall we be judged or might or money? In 40 yrs of life i felt I've walked in the parade of distinguished men, an entourage of awesomeness. I've served in many different capacities such as family man, husband, business man and friend. Sensitivity don't mean soft. I feel it represents the balance of power true men really have.  It's not about being able to cry. I feel it's more about the capacity to care. The patience of understanding and the compassion to be there unconditionally. Men can be funny, silly, charismatic and all those other qualities except for the s word. We will be clowned by our peers as well as the women we love, who by all means "don't want no sensitive man!" or is that the problems we also face, not having the know how to be able to be expressive? In the grand scheme of things, how do you judge/measure what it means to be a man with feelings?