My list to 40 continuum

1977 Born December 31st 10pm middle child of three (fast forward)
 Neighborhood's miscreant. (St Paul Baptist Church)
93 Clark jr high glee club member
94 Black belt karate
96 High school drum major E.St.Louis Sr High
96 Professional African drummer E.St.Louis (Community Performance Ensemble)
96 high school cross country track team/pole vault
96 graduate E.Side high school
98 joins Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity Inc. 11 true soldiers
98 Dean's list
98 Original member of the fabulous five step team. PBS
98  help organized the Sigma bricks/ tree
98 Voting delegate PBS
98 Community service chairman
98 Father of first born son Aaron M. 7lbs /13 onces
98 Delta's Ebony Man competition EK chapter
2k National Step champion Philly Greek show
2k Vice president PBS
2k-03 Step Captain PBS
04 Orange belt in Judo
National Step champion PBS
Regional champs
04 baby girl born Tylan J. 7lb
05 became a pescatarian
05 Bantaba Drum & Dance Company of Memphis
08 Professional Certified Jeweler/ Diamontologist.
Graduate University of Memphis majored in television and film minor in  African American studies
09 Presidential Inauguration ( Obama first term)
Graduate chapter member Phi Beta Sigma fraternity Inc. Tau Iota Sigma.....

not quite done yet more will be added......

Captain black man and the nappy-headed crew Chronicles

Time for school....

Getting ready is not always the easiest thing to do most times it takes work. We (meaning Terminator myself or Wonder Mom) get up every morning same time 7 a.m. Terminator has a routine to start the day. He get up makes his bed first then begins to put pick up his room from the frenzy he and super baby had the night before. I always asked how he rested, his reply is most excellently! We talk for a sec then begins complete his morning task before leaving for school. The school bus arrives around 7:25 a.m. so he has about 20 minutes to get ready which is easy to do cause he gets his clothes out the night before. With a few minutes to eat breakfast Terminator has his favorite options to choose from, french toast, oatmeal, a sugary cereal or pancakes. Just so you know oatmeal never wins  the breakfast battles with the 9 year old. The fun part for both of us at the breakfast table is coming up with character names for ourselves each day which helps us pretend who we will be that day. We can be very creative at times. After breakfast or when the clock strikes 7:20 a.m. Terminator super powers goes into effect. He puts away his things and grab his super book bag kisses the love ones and out the door with super super-speed he goes. "To the bus stop my classmates need me!" he proclaimed. Rushing through many lawns, there's no stopping Terminator on his path to Greatness. He never worries about missing the bus or the perfect window seat next to his comrade Devon dude. Now they met about 2 years ago but that's another story. Winter, spring and fall Terminator has his morning routine down to a science so, he knows how to make it work to his favor. There are times the routine is slightly altered but never without recourse to remedy the situation. Just like that he's sitting next to his best bud and they exchange morning stories and occasional toys on the bus ride to school. Terminator knows he needs his buddy and his buddy needs him, they help balance each other out. Terminator is very reserved and Devon is not so they attract to each other. When it's time to go home  they are still two peas in a pod. Captain black man and Wonder mom make sure Terminator has what he needs to make his morning The Best Time Ever! When you start with love you put yourself in a good place to share that love with others. Terminator is  a very loving person, brother and friend. He helps others daily with the superpowers. He's lightning fast and super strong. Just last week he helped the bus driver get all of the students off the bus safely due to a flat tire. It's like he has a third sense he can always tell when something is not right. Every morning is important to each and every one of them, the perfect way to start the day.

Until next time.

Male sensitivity mirroring miseducation.

     Male sensitivity is almost always seen as gay to other men right? Why? Is it because growing up you were learned to be "hard" or tough. Maybe you were always viewed that way out of obligation. You know the narrative, single mother raising small kids and you're the oldest. Or you're  the only boy between siblings. Right? Fact of the matter is we catch hell if we don't "stand up and take it like a man." Well what's that really like? What's taking it like anything have to do with having feelings. Being expressive about what men really feel throughout their lives as men. A lot of us can't really talk about what's really going on with us because of this reason. How do we teach this unspoken language to generations to come? Speaking from a male point of view about how we should conduct ourselves as heterosexual men with feelings, do we put down the discomfort of regret to be the men we're suppose to be? Do we shadow other men who have endured and those who have failed to know what it's all about? How do we as men discern the true values of men? Is it really by his character shall we be judged or might or money? In 40 yrs of life i felt I've walked in the parade of distinguished men, an entourage of awesomeness. I've served in many different capacities such as family man, husband, business man and friend. Sensitivity don't mean soft. I feel it represents the balance of power true men really have.  It's not about being able to cry. I feel it's more about the capacity to care. The patience of understanding and the compassion to be there unconditionally. Men can be funny, silly, charismatic and all those other qualities except for the s word. We will be clowned by our peers as well as the women we love, who by all means "don't want no sensitive man!" or is that the problems we also face, not having the know how to be able to be expressive? In the grand scheme of things, how do you judge/measure what it means to be a man with feelings?