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I am a man about the business of taking care of business, minding my own business and staying out of yours. I don't care what devices people use to separate themselves from others (religion, money, race, gender, class, intelligence etc.) at the end of the day you came from the earth and so shall you return. The only advice I have is try to live and love without fear.

Tuesday, December 5, 2017

My list to 40 continuum

1977 Born December 31st 10pm middle child of three (fast forward)
 Neighborhood's miscreant. (St Paul Baptist Church)
93 Clark jr high glee club member
94 Black belt karate
96 High school drum major E.St.Louis Sr High
96 Professional African drummer E.St.Louis (Community Performance Ensemble)
96 high school cross country track team/pole vault
96 graduate E.Side high school
98 joins Phi Beta Sigma Fraternity Inc. 11 true soldiers
98 Dean's list
98 Original member of the fabulous five step team. PBS
98  help organized the Sigma bricks/ tree
98 Voting delegate PBS
98 Community service chairman
98 Father of first born son Aaron M. 7lbs /13 onces
98 Delta's Ebony Man competition EK chapter
2k National Step champion Philly Greek show
2k Vice president PBS
2k-03 Step Captain PBS
04 Orange belt in Judo
National Step champion PBS
Regional champs
04 baby girl born Tylan J. 7lb
05 became a pescatarian
05 Bantaba Drum & Dance Company of Memphis
08 Professional Certified Jeweler/ Diamontologist.
Graduate University of Memphis majored in television and film minor in  African American studies
09 Presidential Inauguration ( Obama first term)
Graduate chapter member Phi Beta Sigma fraternity Inc. Tau Iota Sigma.....

not quite done yet more will be added......

Thursday, November 30, 2017

Captain black man and the nappy-headed crew Chronicles

Time for school....

Getting ready is not always the easiest thing to do most times it takes work. We (meaning Terminator myself or Wonder Mom) get up every morning same time 7 a.m. Terminator has a routine to start the day. He get up makes his bed first then begins to put pick up his room from the frenzy he and super baby had the night before. I always asked how he rested, his reply is most excellently! We talk for a sec then begins complete his morning task before leaving for school. The school bus arrives around 7:25 a.m. so he has about 20 minutes to get ready which is easy to do cause he gets his clothes out the night before. With a few minutes to eat breakfast Terminator has his favorite options to choose from, french toast, oatmeal, a sugary cereal or pancakes. Just so you know oatmeal never wins  the breakfast battles with the 9 year old. The fun part for both of us at the breakfast table is coming up with character names for ourselves each day which helps us pretend who we will be that day. We can be very creative at times. After breakfast or when the clock strikes 7:20 a.m. Terminator super powers goes into effect. He puts away his things and grab his super book bag kisses the love ones and out the door with super super-speed he goes. "To the bus stop my classmates need me!" he proclaimed. Rushing through many lawns, there's no stopping Terminator on his path to Greatness. He never worries about missing the bus or the perfect window seat next to his comrade Devon dude. Now they met about 2 years ago but that's another story. Winter, spring and fall Terminator has his morning routine down to a science so, he knows how to make it work to his favor. There are times the routine is slightly altered but never without recourse to remedy the situation. Just like that he's sitting next to his best bud and they exchange morning stories and occasional toys on the bus ride to school. Terminator knows he needs his buddy and his buddy needs him, they help balance each other out. Terminator is very reserved and Devon is not so they attract to each other. When it's time to go home  they are still two peas in a pod. Captain black man and Wonder mom make sure Terminator has what he needs to make his morning The Best Time Ever! When you start with love you put yourself in a good place to share that love with others. Terminator is  a very loving person, brother and friend. He helps others daily with the superpowers. He's lightning fast and super strong. Just last week he helped the bus driver get all of the students off the bus safely due to a flat tire. It's like he has a third sense he can always tell when something is not right. Every morning is important to each and every one of them, the perfect way to start the day.

Until next time.

Sunday, October 8, 2017

Male sensitivity mirroring miseducation.

     Male sensitivity is almost always seen as gay to other men right? Why? Is it because growing up you were learned to be "hard" or tough. Maybe you were always viewed that way out of obligation. You know the narrative, single mother raising small kids and you're the oldest. Or you're  the only boy between siblings. Right? Fact of the matter is we catch hell if we don't "stand up and take it like a man." Well what's that really like? What's taking it like anything have to do with having feelings. Being expressive about what men really feel throughout their lives as men. A lot of us can't really talk about what's really going on with us because of this reason. How do we teach this unspoken language to generations to come? Speaking from a male point of view about how we should conduct ourselves as heterosexual men with feelings, do we put down the discomfort of regret to be the men we're suppose to be? Do we shadow other men who have endured and those who have failed to know what it's all about? How do we as men discern the true values of men? Is it really by his character shall we be judged or might or money? In 40 yrs of life i felt I've walked in the parade of distinguished men, an entourage of awesomeness. I've served in many different capacities such as family man, husband, business man and friend. Sensitivity don't mean soft. I feel it represents the balance of power true men really have.  It's not about being able to cry. I feel it's more about the capacity to care. The patience of understanding and the compassion to be there unconditionally. Men can be funny, silly, charismatic and all those other qualities except for the s word. We will be clowned by our peers as well as the women we love, who by all means "don't want no sensitive man!" or is that the problems we also face, not having the know how to be able to be expressive? In the grand scheme of things, how do you judge/measure what it means to be a man with feelings?

Wednesday, September 21, 2016

I need that

Support what you love,
Love what you support.
Even if you don't agreed.....it's like leaving the house without a key.
It matters not, I know you got me."

That's the support I need....

His - story

I wanna write you in my story, but wait you're already there. 

Native tongue.

Monday, February 22, 2016


     Can you think of your most embarrassing moment? I can!!!!! I'm not talking about a time when your shoe was un-tied and you almost fell or when your pants wasn't zip and you instantly became a part of a peepshow.
Think about a time were it was the most ridiculous and embarrassing thing  that you've ever seen in your life. Crazy thing is, it's happening to you. Yeah that kind of ridiculousness.
Classic entertainment.
     There are many embarrassing moments in life but this one puts the icing on the cake. I was a junior in college, first semester or second, can't remember.
      Earlier in the week I sat down with my advisor about my senior year schedule and was on track to graduate the following year. Young kid from the hood. The projects, I grew up in a dilapidated/poverty-stricken  environment, many can relate with my social economic status. Needless to say, I was super excited and really felt I'd beat the odds. 
At the time, Kanye West first album was heavy on the air waves.
      We (da bruhs) were doing things our own way. It was interest week and we hosted this event, that at the time had been something new and innovative.
     Can't recall the name so we'll just say it was a talent event. So we (da bruhs) were on stage, as the co-host, I call the next act to the stage." (So and so) come on up." This young lady introduces the joke, little did I know it was rigged for me. "....'So and so' would graduate before the Joksta!!!" Me. The crowd went wild, laughing profusely. No doubt  it was extremely funny and the funniest part of the whole thing is it was 90% true... or maybe.
     I was in school nine years, I must admit, if it was up to me I would have quit a long time ago. But, no I  wasn't quitting, so oh well.
Anyway, the one thing in my head at the time the whole audience of about three hundred people laughing, I keep thinking "they don't know me, they know nothing about my story or struggle" so I shrugged it off in my head and I believe I had the most confused and embarrassed look on my face. Lol I was really at a lost. 
      I immediately  concluded this joke was the most belittling, funny, but not so funny joke on my behalf. Still in all it was classic. Reflecting on it, I relived that moment more than once and every time I reminisce I think that along with other things that happened to fuel me to not give up "til I got that paper" as unk use to say. 
All and all, you never know good or bad what might motivate someone to do what they need to for self. To say I'll show them or tuh they think I care what they think of me......Nope! 
Inspiration comes from experience directly or indirectly.  In reading this, may it inspire you to write encouragements to others. Peace and blessings


Monday, November 16, 2015

I don't wanna leave,  but I gotta go right now. 

 So black man, what shall thee leave behind?
 Or shall I say African king!!!?
Leave the ignorance behind, the shiftlessness alone, for it only consumes  you. Nothing new under the sun, but the contrary is you. Your mind and spirit shall be all a new. Through righteousness and truth you shall be transformed back to the African king that's asleep in you.
I say to you leave the booty, beer, and bullshit alone. Focus on building the bridges of father/son relationships and community focus groups for young kings rights of passage, like our traditions once were. We are singlehandedly suffering in silence while the world whispers words of inspiration or desperation for the true kings to stand and be spoken for. I say to you African that don't want to leave.... the bullshit gotta go right now!
Peace king!