Black Fatherhood; Community or Convenience?

So I'm watching the season premier of The Game on Black Exploitation Television and the subject matter came up about one of the characters offspring not belonging to him. He questioned whether he would stay in the child's life knowing the offspring wasn't his or not wanting to know at all. So the question I would ask is would you stay cause it's the right thing to do, or would you cut all ties and leave with no hesitation?

People think that most black men would just run out as fast as they could when finding out that the child belongs to someone else in most cases right? Maybe so or maybe not I can't say. I would ask why is that? For the longest black men catch a bad wrap when it comes down to men taking care of kids. We are all generalized when encountering women and the questions is asked "how many kids do you have?" as if it's an epidemic,not to mention the look we get afterwards as if we mistreated every woman we met.


Also if the answer is none then your sexual practices are questioned followed by more looks of disgrace. What's that all about? How did black men get reduced to sex machines, dead beat dads and no good dogs? Why aren't we the Kings we were intended to be? So the question of would you stay if you were unaware of the paternity of the child ,really doesn't help the way we're viewed and furthers perpetuate these stereotypes we often hear. I feel that as a young educated black man I understand that there are forces that want me to fall victim of a certain status or way of life,and I know that my heritage and education teach that I should combat these evils that want me dead or in jail.

How is it that you can look at other communities and see male role models present and accounted for but not in the African American communities? How is it that African American males don't feel there's something wrong with this picture? Why is it so easy to just walk away from someone's life who may look to you for guidance and say he or she isn't mine?


These are questions I pose to anyone in various positions of influence. Back when our communities were able to teach boys to be men and things of value were giving to them through rites of passage the community was a solid unit. Our youth understood when the time was right for them to go out on their own to be a man or woman. Nowadays you never hear of black men having rites of passage ceremonies or coming of age event for their sons and daughters.

How can we get back on the right track? What can we say is the reason for that not happening in our community? Are we not concerned with our youth, or do we not know importance of this time we are missing out on? Are we or should we really try harder to get more involved? Do you feel it take a community to raise a child? If so let's continue to use that understanding and do what's right to raise our unguided youth.

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Kwame Ture on Haiti

"Don't I know you?"

I'm tired of people coming up to me talking that old "Don't I know you?" or "You look so familiar....." I would  understand this if this was Hollywood and paparazzi is all around you snapping pics with the people trying get a look at you but it's not. Most of the time you're just walking through Walmart or waiting for a table at a restaurant when some stranger wants to have a 5 minute conversation with you in hopes that they'll remember where they know you from. Where I live is small, but its not that small and you very well might not know half the people you see.

I can see if this exchange would end with me saying "Naw I don't think I know you....' but 9 times out of 10 it does now. People will begin to ask if I attended different schools I've never heard of, ask where I grew up at, my previous employment history. If that does not ring any bells than they'll resort to asking me if I know people from any of the places I mentioned. "You from St Louis? You know Pookie and Smoke?"

Now don't get me wrong, the attention I've received can be great sometimes but most times I feel awkward. I feel like I'm a unique human being and there is nobody out there like me but I'm constantly being accused of being or reminding someone of someone else. Do I have 101 clones running around? Am I not as different as I think I am? Or on the flip side, am I that awesome that people just want to know me? Is this how celebs feel about their personal space and privacy? I just want to go out and have a great time without being recognized sometimes. That old don't" I know you from somewhere" or you look familiar is becoming too familiar to me.

Children: How should we raise them??

A child should be raised to have basic values, a moral character and a genuine personality. One who tries to instill those things in a child early on will have the least amount of road to travel when it comes to adapting him/her in the social structure of the world.

How can you develop a child that has the moral fibers needed to control the pressure of sex, guns and chasing the almighty dollar? Is religion the right answer? Is trying to befriend your child and take the chance that they might not grow up respecting the role of a parent vs child a better way? What type of fear should a child have for their parent? I can say going from a child to having my own that there are many ways that can be effective but you have to be an example they can learn from.

"What I most remember was an abiding sense of comfort and security. I got plenty of mothering, not only from Pop and my brothers and sisters when they were home, but from the whole of our close-knit community." Singer and Actor Paul Robeson

I can remember the different styles of discipline each one of my parents used which I felt in a way created the balance and core structure of who I am today. I also feel that it takes a community to raise a child coupled with tough love. People who respect tough love will tell you how they learned a valuable lesson from it and how being reprimanded as a child helped them in their adult life. Raising children is not cut & dry and will always require a combination of different styles and methods but our parents and the generations before them had the right idea on how we should raise children. The further we deviate from the 'old school' way of child rearing, the worse off our children will become.

Free the Oppressed People of Haiti!!!

Haiti Struggles With Cholera and Political Selfishness

"Haiti – a country which had never had a recorded case of cholera – has been dealing with an outbreak of cholera this fall. The cholera is now rumored to have been brought into the country by UN peacekeeping troops from Nepal, which had a cholera outbreak of its own in the summer."

The Untied Nations and others have reaped the benefits and resources from the land and people of Haiti as well as other places around the world. How is it that the only free black country in the world ( free of white supremacy) until now are suffering  from disease and other elements while the richest Africans in the world stand by watching?  Why is it that the UN, the British, Chinese and Spanish military fly planes into Haiti and others aren't allowed there? How can that be? How hard is it to treat cholera? What can we do to help? Where does the money really go? Why aren't major artists talking about this? Katrina was another way to destroy our people and we still don't know the truth about what really happened with levees. 

We must change the perceptions Africans (African Americans) have about the people of Haiti. Africans don't know the power of imagery and how a negative portrayal of Haitians can effect the perception we have on our brothers and sisters there. We only hear and see negative stories and destruction surrounding the Haitians and Africans abroad and we don't have the the mindset to try to create a connection with our people of the African diaspora.

How long will we suffer and die before we see the bigger picture? Come on people...private prisons, black on black crime, white on black crimes are viewed as the norms without a question of why? I really feel that if you want change you have to die for it, not be ready to but to actually use the path our ancestors used. I don't feel that the fighting spirit of our people has died with them, I know it still lives within us. We just have to confront the demon head on. I hear the voices of our ancestors like Nat Turner, Marcus Garvey, Amos Wilson and others who were the strong examples we needed to kill white supremacy dead in it's tracks. People, we got to stand and fight for something cause we dying for nothing.

Peace and blessings.   

Angry Women Status

 This blog is about the misconceptions  brothers are  subjected to or have to fight against  in regards to the Angry Women of the World. I feel there's a reason sisters should not care too much about the men they cannot find due to the following.

1. The sisters don't respect a brother that is not working.

2. Sisters will not admit they need help unless it's offered and then it becomes expected.

3. Sisters know that there are differences about men but will claim we are all the same.

4. They think 60% of men practice homosexual life styles.

5. They are unaware of the growing number of women who practice homosexual lifestyles.

6. Most men cheat.( Who they cheating with should also be addressed.)

7. Brothers having too many babies with different women.

8. Babydaddy drama, domestic violence and unpaid child support.

9. Sisters can't find brothers on they level.

10. They don't practice the same spirituality


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